he better the writing, the less offensive the kink.

I couldn't agree more. I've discovered kinks (fic kinks, at least) from writers who know how to bring it. xtricks ... sweet everlovin' kink god.

And I'm agreed; hearing about female circumcision, I think, has affected viewpoints about something people really didn't think about as often before.

My husband's cut, and he's quite sanguine about it and so am I, but it's really become something people think about more if they're making the decision instead of doing automatically. Which is really cool.